, you will believe you are stupid. Your husband, my husband, there is no difference. Did you ever think he might just be this way because your words have convinced him, or at the very least, someone else has told him these things and you have agreed?

Will you dare lay down your own life to give birth to another and release him into his kingdom, his destiny?

Maybe you have spoken and agreed with words declared over him early in his life. Do not despair; it is not the end, so to speak. Be encouraged; remember what I said, “There is a better way.” Ask for forgiveness and release him from any judgmental words or actions. Speak God’s wonderful, magical words of encouragement and watch him evolve right before you eyes.

Who will break the cycle? Will it be you? I hope so. There is nothing to loose and everything to gain. All things are possible to him who believes.

I hear you saying, “You don’t live with him. Yo

Do fairy tales really come true? Can you really kiss a frog and watch him become a prince? Do good dreams come true? Are you willing to pay the price? The price of love which says of another, You are more important than I am.

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? A wicked step-mother laughing at you saying, “You will always be married to the frog under my spell.” Does your heart, like mine, yearn to be swept off your feet with Prince Charming dashing to your rescue on his white steed with glass slippers in hand?

When it comes to believing in fairy tales most women feel their lives somehow mirror the adverse side. The wicked step-mother “Life” exacts her toll and tolerance is the accepted role. This creates a quagmire, a vicious cycle of hoping for the positive all the while disregarding the possibility of white steeds and glass slippers. This creates a no win situation; however, I believe and know from experience there is a way—a better way.

Can we really hope? Can our hearts really believe? Can you and I really see a Prince Charming in our frogs? I resound with a great big, “Yes!”

Can our marriages change? I believe so if we are willing to kiss our frogs and believe there is a prince longing to emerge?

“Oh, but he has warts,” I hear you saying, “And he stinks. He’s so slimy and green. Come on! A prince inside my frog? You’ve got to be teasing me?”

“But wait; let me think, what is there to loose? Kiss a frog? These lips touch a frog? Maybe? After all I have tried everything else and insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.”

“Tell Me More!”

“OK! Words are kisses. They transform using the invisible, but empowering force of faith and love.”

“Are you telling me my words are really kisses of love and can transform even a warty frog? Please?”

Yes, words are kisses for good or evil. They are seeds of love and hope or death and destruction. If the only thing we ever changed in our marriage relationship were our words, everything else could be transformed. What are you speaking? Who are you agreeing with? God? Or, well, you know who?

While growing up, many of us heard these words, “sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” I beg to differ. The Bible teaches life and death are in the power of the tongue and we must be satisfied with the fruit of it no matter what, good or bad.

God created each and every one of us with a plan. He wove His DNA into each of us, yes, even our husbands. We are all created in His image. Even though the circumstances of life have sometimes tarnished our view of who He says we are His original plan and vision for each of us has not changed. When we as women realize this and believe, we will see our “Knights in Shining Armor” as ones who long to come out of their frog suits and don the garments of “Prince.” God has given us more power and influence than we can imagine. We must be careful how we use it.

I challenge you to look deeper until you see the mighty, tender-hearted man of God hidden beneath the rough, bumpy exterior. See your man through God‘s eyes. He will show you who he is if will just ask.

Get real quiet. Listen. Can you hear him? Your frog is calling to you, “Help me! Believe in me! Don’t give up on me! Ribbit! Ribbit!

With this in mind, are we the ones to affirm them with kind words? Are we the ones to call them handsome? Are we the ones to tell them we are proud of them? Are we the ones to forgive, to pray? Most of all, are we the ones to agree with God about who He says they are? I say with an astounding shout. “YES!” If we don’t, who will?

You know for yourself if someone calls you stupid long enough, you will believe you are stupid. Your husband, my husband, there is no difference. Did you ever think he might just be this way because your words have convinced him, or at the very least, someone else has told him these things and you have agreed?

Will you dare lay down your own life to give birth to another and release him into his kingdom, his destiny?

Maybe you have spoken and agreed with words declared over him early in his life. Do not despair; it is not the end, so to speak. Be encouraged; remember what I said, “There is a better way.” Ask for forgiveness and release him from any judgmental words or actions. Speak God’s wonderful, magical words of encouragement and watch him evolve right before you eyes.

Who will break the cycle? Will it be you? I hope so. There is nothing to loose and everything to gain. All things are possible to him who believes.

I hear you saying, “You don’t live with him. You

ence there is a way—a better way.

Can we really hope? Can our hearts really believe? Can you and I really see a Prince Charming in our frogs? I resound with a great big, “Yes!”

Can our marriages change? I believe so if we are willing to kiss our frogs and believe there is a prince longing to emerge?

“Oh, but he has warts,” I hear you saying, “And he stinks. He’s so slimy and green. Come on! A prince inside my frog? You’ve got to be teasing me?”

“But wait; let me think, what is there to loose? Kiss a frog? These lips touch a frog? Maybe? After all I have tried everything else and insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.”

“Tell Me More!”

“OK! Words are kisses. They transform using the invisible, but empowering force of faith and love.”

“Are you telling me my words are really kisses of love and can transform even a warty frog? Please?”

Yes, words are kisses for good or evil. They are seeds of love and hope or death and destruction. If the only thing we ever changed in our marriage relationship were our words, everything else could be transformed. What are you speaking? Who are you agreeing with? God? Or, well, you know who?

While growing up, many of us heard these words, “sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” I beg to differ. The Bible teaches life and death are in the power of the tongue and we must be satisfied with the fruit of it no matter what, good or bad.

God created each and every one of us with a plan. He wove His DNA into each of us, yes, even our husbands. We are all created in His image. Even though the circumstances of life have sometimes tarnished our view of who He says we are His original plan and vision for each of us has not changed. When we as women realize this and believe, we will see our “Knights in Shining Armor” as ones who long to come out of their frog suits and don the garments of “Prince.” God has given us more power and influence than we can imagine. We must be careful how we use it.

I challenge you to look deeper until you see the mighty, tender-hearted man of God hidden beneath the rough, bumpy exterior. See your man through God‘s eyes. He will show you who he is if will just ask.

Get real quiet. Listen. Can you hear him? Your frog is calling to you, “Help me! Believe in me! Don’t give up on me! Ribbit! Ribbit!

With this in mind, are we the ones to affirm them with kind words? Are we the ones to call them handsome? Are we the ones to tell them we are proud of them? Are we the ones to forgive, to pray? Most of all, are we the ones to agree with God about who He says they are? I say with an astounding shout. “YES!” If we don’t, who will?

You know for yourself if someone calls you stupid long enough, you will believe you are stupid. Your husband, my husband, there is no difference. Did you ever think he might just be this way because your words have convinced him, or at the very least, someone else has told him these things and you have agreed?

Will you dare lay down your own life to give birth to another and release him into his kingdom, his destiny?

Maybe you have spoken and agreed with words declared over him early in his life. Do not despair; it is not the end, so to speak. Be encouraged; remember what I said, “There is a better way.” Ask for forgiveness and release him from any judgmental words or actions. Speak God’s wonderful, magical words of encouragement and watch him evolve right before you eyes.

Who will break the cycle? Will it be you? I hope so. There is nothing to loose and everything to gain. All things are possible to him who believes.

I hear you saying, “You don’t live with him. Yo

rds are kisses for good or evil. They are seeds of love and hope or death and destruction. If the only thing we ever changed in our marriage relationship were our words, everything else could be transformed. What are you speaking? Who are you agreeing with? God? Or, well, you know who?

While growing up, many of us heard these words, “sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” I beg to differ. The Bible teaches life and death are in the power of the tongue and we must be satisfied with the fruit of it no matter what, good or bad.

God created each and every one of us with a plan. He wove His DNA into each of us, yes, even our husbands. We are all created in His image. Even though the circumstances of life have sometimes tarnished our view of who He says we are His original plan and vision for each of us has not changed. When we as women realize this and believe, we will see our “Knights in Shining Armor” as ones who long to come out of their frog suits and don the garments of “Prince.” God has given us more power and influence than we can imagine. We must be careful how we use it.

I challenge you to look deeper until you see the mighty, tender-hearted man of God hidden beneath the rough, bumpy exterior. See your man through God‘s eyes. He will show you who he is if will just ask.

Get real quiet. Listen. Can you hear him? Your frog is calling to you, “Help me! Believe in me! Don’t give up on me! Ribbit! Ribbit!

With this in mind, are we the ones to affirm them with kind words? Are we the ones to call them handsome? Are we the ones to tell them we are proud of them? Are we the ones to forgive, to pray? Most of all, are we the ones to agree with God about who He says they are? I say with an astounding shout. “YES!” If we don’t, who will?

You know for yourself if someone calls you stupid long enough, you will believe you are stupid. Your husband, my husband, there is no difference. Did you ever think he might just be this way because your words have convinced him, or at the very least, someone else has told him these things and you have agreed?

Will you dare lay down your own life to give birth to another and release him into his kingdom, his destiny?

Maybe you have spoken and agreed with words declared over him early in his life. Do not despair; it is not the end, so to speak. Be encouraged; remember what I said, “There is a better way.” Ask for forgiveness and release him from any judgmental words or actions. Speak God’s wonderful, magical words of encouragement and watch him evolve right before you eyes.

Who will break the cycle? Will it be you? I hope so. There is nothing to loose and everything to gain. All things are possible to him who believes.

I hear you saying, “You don’t live with him. Yo

ning Armor” as ones who long to come out of their frog suits and don the garments of “Prince.” God has given us more power and influence than we can imagine. We must be careful how we use it.

I challenge you to look deeper until you see the mighty, tender-hearted man of God hidden beneath the rough, bumpy exterior. See your man through God‘s eyes. He will show you who he is if will just ask.

Get real quiet. Listen. Can you hear him? Your frog is calling to you, “Help me! Believe in me! Don’t give up on me! Ribbit! Ribbit!

With this in mind, are we the ones to affirm them with kind words? Are we the ones to call them handsome? Are we the ones to tell them we are proud of them? Are we the ones to forgive, to pray? Most of all, are we the ones to agree with God about who He says they are? I say with an astounding shout. “YES!” If we don’t, who will?

You know for yourself if someone calls you stupid long enough, you will believe you are stupid. Your husband, my husband, there is no difference. Did you ever think he might just be this way because your words have convinced him, or at the very least, someone else has told him these things and you have agreed?

Will you dare lay down your own life to give birth to another and release him into his kingdom, his destiny?

Maybe you have spoken and agreed with words declared over him early in his life. Do not despair; it is not the end, so to speak. Be encouraged; remember what I said, “There is a better way.” Ask for forgiveness and release him from any judgmental words or actions. Speak God’s wonderful, magical words of encouragement and watch him evolve right before you eyes.

Who will break the cycle? Will it be you? I hope so. There is nothing to loose and everything to gain. All things are possible to him who believes.

I hear you saying, “You don’t live with him. Yo

, you will believe you are stupid. Your husband, my husband, there is no difference. Did you ever think he might just be this way because your words have convinced him, or at the very least, someone else has told him these things and you have agreed?

Will you dare lay down your own life to give birth to another and release him into his kingdom, his destiny?

Maybe you have spoken and agreed with words declared over him early in his life. Do not despair; it is not the end, so to speak. Be encouraged; remember what I said, “There is a better way.” Ask for forgiveness and release him from any judgmental words or actions. Speak God’s wonderful, magical words of encouragement and watch him evolve right before you eyes.

Who will break the cycle? Will it be you? I hope so. There is nothing to loose and everything to gain. All things are possible to him who believes.

I hear you saying, “You don’t live with him. You don’t see the things he does or hear what he says to me!”

O’ contraire, I do know. I am living proof this works. My husband once a frog is now “Prince, Mighty Man of God.” He is always bringing me glass slippers.

Regardless of your skepticism, I ask you to please consider an idea. Why not try treating him as if he is the way you want him to be. Respect the frog like you would a prince. Use your words and call him Prince. What a novel thought, a thought so contrary to all natural inclination. Our emotions scream NO! This going against everything we think and feel. Our minds become religious and tell us we should not lie. After all, facts are facts.

Yet, God’s Word says, “Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it”. (Eph. 4:29 Amplified Version).

Imagine your vocabulary reflecting the above scripture, allowing your frog to hear good and beneficial words helpful to his progress. Eventually each and every word seed you plant will grow into an abundant harvest of edible fruit. God’s Word always accomplishes the purpose for which it is sent. Life begets life. Death begets death. As long as the sun, moon and stars hang in the heavens, we will reap what we sow. A kernel of corn will never produce tomatoes. Ungodly, wrong speech will never make a frog become a prince.

You ask me one more time, “How do I do this?” One of the best ways is to find expressions of truth in the scriptures and repeat them out loud. Turn scriptures into proclamations and come into agreement with God. You can call things that are not as though they are until the manifestation appears. However, unless you can say something nice, it is best to keep quiet. Sometimes a spoken word is not needed. Maybe a smile, a loving look of kindness or a hug is all that is needed to help your frog know he is loved and appreciated. Be a speaker and a doer of the “Word”.

Whatever you speak, the more you say it, the more you believe it, so why not verbalize the language of grace and edification? You will be changed in the process. You will most likely reap the benefits of a transformed heart yourself before you see his changed.

Fairy tales can come true if you will only believe, if you will only plant right seed. Actions and words have power to change, turning frogs into princes. Closets will be filled with glass slippers. Delicious, edible fruit will abound at your table. The little ones under your care will learn how to live in a palace; in turn becoming fountains of godly edification. Your ceiling becomes their floor.

Look, can you see the bigger picture? Listen, can you hear the louder call? It’s really not about you and me. It’s about destiny, about purpose; and yes, most of all it is all about love, a love we all need to give and to receive. Get out of your boat of tolerant unbelief and wade into the pond with a heart of expectation. Your “Prince” is waiting.

This is a sample of my upcoming book, Kiss a Frog and Make a Prince, Have the Husband of Your Dreams.