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Member You - Need Disguised as Love
I first started in the Internet business about nine years ago or so. At the time, I was even then concerned about having already missed the boat. ECommerce has only grown since then. I started by designing a basic website called "Independent’s Day", or "IndieDay" for short. I didn’t even have a .com at the time! It was all about selling independent musicians’ CD’s. It failed miserably.The next thing I tried was a crafting site with my wife. She was into rubber stamping at the time, and so we started making stamps and selling them online. I designed most of the stamps myself, and we had a great time doing it together. She minded the craft side of the business, and I minded the online sales. We did pretty well
The reason the contract is never made openly is because if it were it would require each individual to be honest with themselves and with their friend/partner as to the reasons why they "desire" the relationship in the first place. Being
What do you do if you have completely run out of money, have bills to pay and it's not yet payday. One alternative is to get what is referred to as a Payday Loan. In a nutshell, a payday loan is a short-term loan only given to those who are gainfully employed and able to provide proof of regular pay-checks.It sounds like the ideal answer, you know that the money is coming in the form of your pay-check and your loan will be able to tide you over until you are paid. At this time you will pay back the lender, generally via a post-dated check. What could be simpler?Payday loans are also referred to as cash advance loans, check advance loans and deferred deposit check loans.The downside to a payday loan i
If you ever stop to reflect on the underlying reasons why many individuals enter relationships in the first place you will notice that the issue of having unmet expectations met is a key theme.
Unmet expectations essentially equate with "need"; the need to be loved, the need to end one's loneliness, the need to be cared for, the need to be emotionally supported, the need to be financially supported, the need to be validated, the need to feel secure etc.
When an individual feels that they are likely to have these expectations (i.e. unmet needs) met by someone else they start to feel excited and then make a fatal mistake. This mistake is that they interpret this "excitement" as feelings of "love".
Why is this a mistake? Well first of all it is because need and love are two very different things. In my view they are not only different they are antithetical to each other. A second and more serious consequence to making this misinterpretation will be discussed shortly.
When a "relationship" is based on "need" there is often an unconscious contract the individuals in that "relationship" make with each other. A contract that is rarely ever made conscious and hence is rarely ever discussed openly. This contract goes something like this: "I'll meet your needs if you meet my needs". The willingness to enter into such a contract is what many call an act of "love".
The reason the contract is never made openly is because if it were it would require each individual to be honest with themselves and with their friend/partner as to the reasons why they "desire" the relationship in the first place. Being
This is the fourth of eight articles about website design. Our discussion will deal with some of the issues which need to be considered when developing a new online presence. You may have already thought of some of these, but perhaps there are probably things which you haven't even considered.In the last article, we discussed domain name registration.This week, we are going to start our search for a webmaster, aka "web designer." Unless you are an accomplished programmer, you are going to have to spend some money at this point.For example, is the server you are thinking about Linux/Apache or Windows based? Will it support dynamic pages, or only static, and if they do support dynamic will they suppor
Unmet expectations essentially equate with "need"; the need to be loved, the need to end one's loneliness, the need to be cared for, the need to be emotionally supported, the need to be financially supported, the need to be validated, the need to feel secure etc.
When an individual feels that they are likely to have these expectations (i.e. unmet needs) met by someone else they start to feel excited and then make a fatal mistake. This mistake is that they interpret this "excitement" as feelings of "love".
Why is this a mistake? Well first of all it is because need and love are two very different things. In my view they are not only different they are antithetical to each other. A second and more serious consequence to making this misinterpretation will be discussed shortly.
When a "relationship" is based on "need" there is often an unconscious contract the individuals in that "relationship" make with each other. A contract that is rarely ever made conscious and hence is rarely ever discussed openly. This contract goes something like this: "I'll meet your needs if you meet my needs". The willingness to enter into such a contract is what many call an act of "love".
The reason the contract is never made openly is because if it were it would require each individual to be honest with themselves and with their friend/partner as to the reasons why they "desire" the relationship in the first place. Being
According to the United States Small Business Administration, the number one reason that businesses fail is poor management. The second reason? Not enough financing or financing coming at the wrong time. When you start home based business, financing should be an important consideration. You will have to make sure you have enough capital to get your business moving, but you will also have to educate yourself to manage that capital well.There are two types of financing available when you want to start home base business, equity and debt financing. Your business’s debt-to-equity ratio is important to determining what type of financing you will need to start home based business. The debt-to-equity ratio is the dolla
Why is this a mistake? Well first of all it is because need and love are two very different things. In my view they are not only different they are antithetical to each other. A second and more serious consequence to making this misinterpretation will be discussed shortly.
When a "relationship" is based on "need" there is often an unconscious contract the individuals in that "relationship" make with each other. A contract that is rarely ever made conscious and hence is rarely ever discussed openly. This contract goes something like this: "I'll meet your needs if you meet my needs". The willingness to enter into such a contract is what many call an act of "love".
The reason the contract is never made openly is because if it were it would require each individual to be honest with themselves and with their friend/partner as to the reasons why they "desire" the relationship in the first place. Being
Take advantage of world politics today and start your own import export business. Are you organized, efficient, and ready to make your future in an opportunity all your own? Import Export Business Opportunities are expanding and there is room for you!In the early nineteen eighties, one of the most popular things in Soviet Russia was American made blue jeans. Exporters made money hand over fist selling American made products to the East. Now, twenty years later, we have seen the fall of communism in many cold war countries. This has opened the door to the import export business companies to make handsome profits by moving goods from one continent to another.Blue jeans in the former Soviet Union sell as good n
When a "relationship" is based on "need" there is often an unconscious contract the individuals in that "relationship" make with each other. A contract that is rarely ever made conscious and hence is rarely ever discussed openly. This contract goes something like this: "I'll meet your needs if you meet my needs". The willingness to enter into such a contract is what many call an act of "love".
The reason the contract is never made openly is because if it were it would require each individual to be honest with themselves and with their friend/partner as to the reasons why they "desire" the relationship in the first place. Being
As a Professional Real Estate Inspector I get to see and hear the right and wrong things people do when buying a home. These 5 tips will help you choose the right Real Estate Agent the first time.Mistake #1: Not using an agent at all or using the Listing Agent as your 'Agent'. Not smart at all. By law, the listing agent is required to keep the Sellers best interest at stake, not yours! Why would anyone enter into a relationship handicapped like this?I’m not aware of any state that makes a Buyer pay for their Agent. The Buyers agent normally gets paid from a cut of the Listing fees or the commissions are split.If you choose wisely, you can put a trained real estate professional on your side for fr
The reason the contract is never made openly is because if it were it would require each individual to be honest with themselves and with their friend/partner as to the reasons why they "desire" the relationship in the first place. Being honest however means being honest with one's self first and admitting to one's self that the underlying needs exist in the first place.
This personal honesty is feared however because with it come negative feelings such as shame, embarrassment, inadequacy, weakness, vulnerability, the fear of rejection and many more. Hence what tends to happen is that each individual finds themselves "lying" to themselves and to their friend/partner about why they want the relationship.
Well of course no lie will go undetected forever. During the course of the relationship, sooner or later, one or the other will begin to feel a sense of "emotional emptiness" or "boredom".
These feelings emerge after the initial "excitement" phase has worn off. These feelings are an indication that there is nothing else really holding this relationship together short of the "needs" that initially were in play.
In other words there is no "Love" between the couple. Additionally, when the boredom sets in there is less motivation to go on trying to meet the others' needs and this breaks the unspoken contract.
This is when individuals generally start arguing with each other and one hears such statements as "You don't love me because you're no longer interested in making me happy (i.e. meeting my needs)". This is when it "almost" becomes clear to the individuals that something has gone terribly wrong.
I say "almost" because this is one of t
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