that the engagement ring puts on a couple to stay together even if one or both see red flags, is that 4 months is just not long enough to know if the potential partner really Knowing the right questions to ask can make all the difference between a relationship that crashes and one that becomes more blissful every day. Recently, a client asked if she and her fianc? were moving too fast. They were both in their 40’s and had been dating for 4 months when they became engaged. They had both been in relationship coaching and had determined their own personal life visions, but this client was concerned about being sure of their compatibility.

I, too, am concerned. One really common relationship trap is the mini-marriage. In the mini-marriage, a couple rushes into a relationship, and in this case, into an engagement. The problem with this, aside from the pressure that the engagement ring puts on a couple to stay together even if one or both see red flags, is that 4 months is just not long enough to know if the potential partner really

e and her fianc? were moving too fast. They were both in their 40’s and had been dating for 4 months when they became engaged. They had both been in relationship coaching and had determined their own personal life visions, but this client was concerned about being sure of their compatibility.

I, too, am concerned. One really common relationship trap is the mini-marriage. In the mini-marriage, a couple rushes into a relationship, and in this case, into an engagement. The problem with this, aside from the pressure that the engagement ring puts on a couple to stay together even if one or both see red flags, is that 4 months is just not long enough to know if the potential partner really

had determined their own personal life visions, but this client was concerned about being sure of their compatibility.

I, too, am concerned. One really common relationship trap is the mini-marriage. In the mini-marriage, a couple rushes into a relationship, and in this case, into an engagement. The problem with this, aside from the pressure that the engagement ring puts on a couple to stay together even if one or both see red flags, is that 4 months is just not long enough to know if the potential partner really

hip trap is the mini-marriage. In the mini-marriage, a couple rushes into a relationship, and in this case, into an engagement. The problem with this, aside from the pressure that the engagement ring puts on a couple to stay together even if one or both see red flags, is that 4 months is just not long enough to know if the potential partner really that the engagement ring puts on a couple to stay together even if one or both see red flags, is that 4 months is just not long enough to know if the potential partner really meets their bottom-line, must-have requirements. Generally, it’s best to see your intended through all the seasons—a full year—before marriage.

But time is not the only issue for couples considering marriage. It’s entirely possible for a couple to date—or even live together—for an extended period of time and then get married to a virtual stranger. Usually the couple thinks they know each other well, but the first few months of marriage bring huge, often unpleasant, surprises.

The truth is that, often, unless a topic happens to come up, most couples never discuss it. And sometimes, even when it does arise, they ignore it. Many people date and mate so unconsciously that they ignor