d her to be attractive. She told us that when she walked down the hallway in her home, as she walked past the full length mirror she would say to herself, You fat ugly cow!

The advice the two instructors gave her was to take down the mirror. I was appalled. Would the next step be to take down all the reflective devices in town? A smarter approach would be to find one thing she did like about herself and build from there.

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We are valued in this world at the rate we desire to be valued
Jean De La Bruyere

Quite often our careers or lack of a career will be a reflection of what we see in the mirror. I’ve used the following exercise on many occasions with my workshop participants. It can be quite revealing for them. I break them up into pairs and give them these instructions:

A) Tell your partner 2 physical attributes you like about yourself.
(Note: physical means being able to touch or point to it.)
B) Tell your partner 2 personality traits you like about yourself.
C) Tell your partner 2 talents or skills that you like in yourself.
D) Tell your partner 2 accomplishments you are proud of.

Because we are all different, some of us will find one set of facts more difficult to discuss than the others. It is an effective tool for opening a discussion on self-esteem and it’s impact on your career or job search. If you found the physical attributes to be uncomfortable to discuss you might be suffering from low self-esteem. Psychologists estimate that probably 2 out of 3 people have low self-esteem so you’re not alone.

Part of the reason you might be resistant to pointing out what you like about your body is many of us were told not to brag because people will think you’re conceited. You must be modest and humble. I’ll warn you right now that being modest will hamper your ability to get the good jobs. Remember you’re selling yourself as the best person for the position. This becomes increasingly difficult unless you believe in your worth and can convince the interviewer that you are the best choice.

There is the saying, You had better learn to like yourself because you’ll probably be taking yourself with you wherever you go. I went to a self-esteem workshop at our local college ;/'........just to see what other facilitators were doing with the subject. One of the women attending was about 40 years old. I considered her to be attractive. She told us that when she walked down the hallway in her home, as she walked past the full length mirror she would say to herself, You fat ugly cow!

The advice the two instructors gave her was to take down the mirror. I was appalled. Would the next step be to take down all the reflective devices in town? A smarter approach would be to find one thing she did like about herself and build from there.

When you look in the mirror, what do you focus on? Th

int to it.)
B) Tell your partner 2 personality traits you like about yourself.
C) Tell your partner 2 talents or skills that you like in yourself.
D) Tell your partner 2 accomplishments you are proud of.

Because we are all different, some of us will find one set of facts more difficult to discuss than the others. It is an effective tool for opening a discussion on self-esteem and it’s impact on your career or job search. If you found the physical attributes to be uncomfortable to discuss you might be suffering from low self-esteem. Psychologists estimate that probably 2 out of 3 people have low self-esteem so you’re not alone.

Part of the reason you might be resistant to pointing out what you like about your body is many of us were told not to brag because people will think you’re conceited. You must be modest and humble. I’ll warn you right now that being modest will hamper your ability to get the good jobs. Remember you’re selling yourself as the best person for the position. This becomes increasingly difficult unless you believe in your worth and can convince the interviewer that you are the best choice.

There is the saying, You had better learn to like yourself because you’ll probably be taking yourself with you wherever you go. I went to a self-esteem workshop at our local college ;/'........just to see what other facilitators were doing with the subject. One of the women attending was about 40 years old. I considered her to be attractive. She told us that when she walked down the hallway in her home, as she walked past the full length mirror she would say to herself, You fat ugly cow!

The advice the two instructors gave her was to take down the mirror. I was appalled. Would the next step be to take down all the reflective devices in town? A smarter approach would be to find one thing she did like about herself and build from there.

When you look in the mirror, what do you focus on? Th

mfortable to discuss you might be suffering from low self-esteem. Psychologists estimate that probably 2 out of 3 people have low self-esteem so you’re not alone.

Part of the reason you might be resistant to pointing out what you like about your body is many of us were told not to brag because people will think you’re conceited. You must be modest and humble. I’ll warn you right now that being modest will hamper your ability to get the good jobs. Remember you’re selling yourself as the best person for the position. This becomes increasingly difficult unless you believe in your worth and can convince the interviewer that you are the best choice.

There is the saying, You had better learn to like yourself because you’ll probably be taking yourself with you wherever you go. I went to a self-esteem workshop at our local college ;/'........just to see what other facilitators were doing with the subject. One of the women attending was about 40 years old. I considered her to be attractive. She told us that when she walked down the hallway in her home, as she walked past the full length mirror she would say to herself, You fat ugly cow!

The advice the two instructors gave her was to take down the mirror. I was appalled. Would the next step be to take down all the reflective devices in town? A smarter approach would be to find one thing she did like about herself and build from there.

When you look in the mirror, what do you focus on? Th

the best person for the position. This becomes increasingly difficult unless you believe in your worth and can convince the interviewer that you are the best choice.

There is the saying, You had better learn to like yourself because you’ll probably be taking yourself with you wherever you go. I went to a self-esteem workshop at our local college ;/'........just to see what other facilitators were doing with the subject. One of the women attending was about 40 years old. I considered her to be attractive. She told us that when she walked down the hallway in her home, as she walked past the full length mirror she would say to herself, You fat ugly cow!

The advice the two instructors gave her was to take down the mirror. I was appalled. Would the next step be to take down all the reflective devices in town? A smarter approach would be to find one thing she did like about herself and build from there.

When you look in the mirror, what do you focus on? Th

d her to be attractive. She told us that when she walked down the hallway in her home, as she walked past the full length mirror she would say to herself, You fat ugly cow!

The advice the two instructors gave her was to take down the mirror. I was appalled. Would the next step be to take down all the reflective devices in town? A smarter approach would be to find one thing she did like about herself and build from there.

When you look in the mirror, what do you focus on? The majority of people will look for their perceived flaw. Have you ever had a pimple? Some of us act like the zit is big enough to have a pilot car out in front. In reality the blemish takes up only a tiny fraction of our face and often no one else noticed or paid attention to it. They probably never would have noticed it until you found a way to bring their attention to it. It’s a hallmark of low self-esteem to want people to see your flaws or at least agree that you have them.

It is a sign of good self-esteem to be able to recognize your strengths. If you’re not sure what yours are then ask people who know you to come up with five of your best strengths. Once you’ve established the five most common answers to the question, put your focus on them. These are the strengths you’ll promote to the interviewer. The better the job you do at emphasizing your strengths the less likely they are to notice or care about your weaknesses.

Benjamin Franklyn said, Think highly of yourself, for the world takes you at your own estimate.